Hi, I’m Bettye Nicole
And I am just a “Gal who loves her Bible” and is passionate about writing and teaching about it! I also love coffee, reading biographies, and traveling. I’ve walked through my seemingly unfair share of trials. The pain in those moments felt unbearable and beyond redemption. But God had a plan! The Bible says ‘Man born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble "- Job 14:1. For most of my life, I prayed and hoped for the opposite, full days and few troubles.
In 2015, I experienced a life-altering, deafening pain from disappointment when my daughter passed away unexpectedly due to SIDS, and shortly after, I navigated divorce. I grieved life and loss simultaneously. During this dark season of my life, Jesus Christ himself became my light, comfort, and strength. Over time, He healed my broken heart, sutured my wounds, and redeemed my life. The Bible encouraged my heart in indescribable ways and became my lifeline. I was able to exchange my hopelessness and despair for the Hope that “All things would work together for my good.”Romans 8:28
Daily, I strive to live out the truths of scripture and continuously entrust myself to God’s sovereign hand. God knows exactly what He is doing in our lives. Pain is purposeful in the hands of our Providential Lord.
Be Encouraged; Jesus Saves.
Formal Introduction
Bettye Nicole is a Mother, Encourager, and founder of Bailey's Dash Foundation, and Author of devotionals, books, and journals. Bettye Nicole hosts "What's Behind Your Selfie" yearly. This conference brings women from all walks of life to share their testimonies.
“When A woman has the conviction that she is doing the work God gave her to do, there is a zeal and courage in her soul that all the forces in this world cannot destroy.”
'but I have prayed for thee, that thy faith fail not: and when thou art converted, strengthen thy brethren. '
Luke 22:32
Strengthend By God
Bettye Nicole ministers to and supports women through writing and speaking who are experiencing relational issues, divorce, depression, and grief, utilizing practical biblical counseling. She believes in teaching the application of biblical principles and instilling faith and confidence in the Word of God and the God of the Word. As believers, we are not exempt from challenging circumstances; therefore, we must strengthen our core beliefs so that we may endure life trials with the hope of overcoming them in Christ.
I also believe in getting to the root of the problem. When you identify the source, the fruit (behavior, habits, confusion, etc.) can be fixed. Proverbs 4:23 explains that we are to "Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life." My approach to writing and speaking focuses on the heart by placing safeguards against the culture's way of life, aligning oneself to live righteously, uprooting Satan's lies and deception, and replacing them with the truth of God's word. It is vital that we utilize the Bible during every encounter and practically apply it to every area of our lives. Most women recognize that they need to change; some may even have the tools. I strive to teach women to utilize the tools so that they can fight the enemy effectively. Ephesians 6:10-18
Statement of Faith
I believe that the entire Bible is the inspired Word of God and that men of God “were moved by the Holy Spirit” to write the very words of Scripture. The Bible is therefore without error (inerrant) in its original manuscripts. God has supernaturally preserved the Bible, and it is the sole and final authority for faith and life, providing encouragement, guidance, comfort, and instruction for training in righteousness (2 Tim. 3:16-17; 2 Pet. 1:20-21)
What are your thoughts on divorce?
I think that it is important that I preface this response with the clarity of this statement: Divorce is never God’s original plan. In the beginning, God created man and woman, and His plan was to become one and do life until death do them part. Sin entered the world, which then led individuals to make choices that were contrary to God’s way. Divorce is never God’s original plan, BUT He allows it under certain circumstances. In a union, both parties must be willing to fight. Both parties must be willing to lay down their selfish ways and live in a way that is, instead, selfless. As best as you can, pray and fast for your marriage. Do what you can and trust God to do what you can’t. I still believe in fighting. I still believe in the power of prayer. Most of all, I still believe God can do the impossible in everything, especially relationships.
To the divorced
Divorce can feel like a failure; I get it. But, when you look to God, trusting in His mercy, He can give you the greatest redemption story you never dreamt of having. I still choose to believe in Ephesians 3:20, “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,”
Scriptures on Forgiveness?
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: Matthew 6:14
And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses Mark 11:25
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14
For thou, Lord, art good, and ready to forgive; and plenteous in mercy unto all them that call upon thee. Psalm 86:5
'Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.'Ephesians 4:31-32
When you don’t know what to do
There are times in life when your back is against the wall. You have prayed, wept, and hoped in the Lord to change your circumstances or the people within that situation. In those moments, lean on the Lord and entrust yourself to His Word and His promises. The Lord will give you clarity of mind and peace in your heart, even without the full picture in view. Continue to do the next right thing, and the Lord will strengthen and walk with you forward.
Scriptures for Direction
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.6In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Proverbs 3:5-6
'For day and night thy hand was heavy upon me: my moisture is turned into the drought of summer. Selah. I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. Psalms 32:4,8
'For this God is our God for ever and ever: he will be our guide even unto death.'Psalms 48:14
'For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord , thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart. 'Jeremiah 29:2,11-13
' Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come. 'John 16:13
From your personal experience, how did you get through grief?
God gives grace for the journey. Grace isn’t something I fully understood until grief-struck and sorrow filled my heart. The nights when I felt the loneliness, Grace was there. The nights when I felt that I simply existed, Grace was there. As Bailey’s first milestones, first birthdays, and holidays were missed because her new residence was in heaven, Grace was present with me on earth. There weren’t fireworks that appeared in my heart, allowing me to see this grace. No, it was time. You see, many people have said that “time heals all wounds,” but I found that to be false.
Time does not have a healing agent. God heals our wounds, and He uses time as a process to do the work. Healing is a process, and it involves trusting God daily, even in tragedy.
Scriptures for a broken heart?
'The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. 'Psalms 34:18
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” — Isaiah 41:10
“LORD my God, I called to you for help, and you healed me.” — Psalm 30:23.
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” — Matthew 11:28
“‘But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the LORD…” — Jeremiah 30:17
Faith Makes ALL THINGS POSSIBLE…Love makes ALL THINGS EASY- Dwight L. Moody